Negative beliefs about the self, tell a story. Not of who we are, but of who we believe ourselves to be. And while it’s natural to believe that we are solely responsible for our own psychic pain, there is a context: our lineage.
Unresolved trauma is passed down from generation to generation. Eventually felt by the family member(s) who finds themselves in a deep despair, in darkness.
As we come to understand that we are often absorbing, carrying, and responding to that which does not belong to us, we can begin the process of letting go. We can surrender.
Shedding old layers is how we find compassion and compassion is how we heal.
Dr. Ariela Bellin is a Licensed Psychologist in Great Neck, and Brooklyn, New York.